Hi,

I just wanted to know if anyone one out there was 'unequally yoked' ie. married to an unbeliever. I have an unbelieving husband and family, and it's a very, very lonely and difficult walk, although he does respect my beliefs. If anyone else is in the same boat, it would be nice to encourage each other.

Also, is there anyone from the south of England?

Blessings,
Lindsey

Blessings Lindsey,

Since there has not been any replies to your request, I thought I would answer.

It all depends on what you consider 'unbelievers'. My family is Catholic. They believe that 'the church' sets the doctrine and they should follow, so they believe they are dong right, but I would not consider them believers.

I consider myself a believer, but there are many that do not because my conclusions on certain subjects do not line up with theirs.

Several years ago, I asked this question on forum: What are we supposed to believe to be a believer? There were many answers of what people here (at that time)considered to be the criteria to be considred as a believer.

In order to be considered a believer you must believe...

That "God's" name is YHWH? Oh yeah...you must also not use "God" but Elohim.
That the Sabbath is still for today...and it must be Saturday and all ordinances listed in the OT are still binding.
That the Messiah's name is Yahshua and not Jesus.
That you must celebrate the Feasts.
That you can not participate in anything that is not Scriptural.
That you must take off your shoes when coming into an assembly.
That you must have been immersed in the name YHWH...not the 'father son and holy spirit'
That must have been completely immersed and not sprinkled.
That you must speak in tongues.

.................


I could go on and on, but I hope you see my point.

I do not know what YOU believe is necessary to be considered a believer, but here is my two cents.

You say that your husband respects your beliefs. I say that is a start. Do you have ANYTHING spiritually in common with your husband? If so, build on that. If you and your husband really love each other, then you can find common ground to start to build and decide together what it is to be a 'Believer'.

I feel like I am on an island all by myself at times. I do not fully agree with anyone that I have met. My family thinks I am in a cult and has disowned me and refussed to allow me to speak about the Scriptures to the family. My friends (old friends) think I am nuts. 'Christians' think I have lost my salvation because of my 'law keeping'. And 'most' sacred namers think that I am somewhat lawless. So, I think that I can relate a little bit with what you are going through.

And no, I am not from the South of England...just South in the US.

I wish you well with your journey and hope that you and your husband can build on the common ground that you already have.

Peace,

JourneyHome

Lindsey,

As long as he is pleased to dwell with you it is a start. What will draw him to Yahusha? Well, Scripture says that the Father will draw them. However, how do you influence your husband's decision to follow the still small voice?

In other words:

Look at yourself through your husband's eyes, how does he see you? Is your behavior showing him that he is "missing something" or that he needs to run as far away as he can? Does he see you have peace? Or are you a bundle of nerves? I think this is what Scripture says when it speaks of 'winning him over by quiet example' (paraphrasing).

Now, I was one of the women who was joined to an unbeliever. That marriage ended. Very long story, shorted up in : he was not pleased to dwell with me. Which I think is a key. Spiritual, emotional, physical, and verbal abuse are signs that a husband is not pleased to dwell. Some things can be worked through and overcome and then there are times that it's obvious that the relationship cannot be healed and needs to be ended.

You keep working with Yahuah, He will take care of the rest. All things work to the good of them that love Yahuah.

~dawn

Hi you two!

Thank you very much for replying to me, I found both your answers really encouraging. You know, now looking back on our marriage (only been 2 years), I have seen progress and a softening in his heart. Trouble is, I wish he would talk to me! Even if it was to disagree!! I have talked to him about YHVH and Yahshua, Torah etc etc, and he once volunteered an opinion, but usually keeps schtum, or nods 'ah ha'. But this is my fault..I always want to see instant results, conveniently forgetting it took years for me to get to this point!

I asked him once what it was he loved most about me and I was hoping he would say my good looks, charm, sense of humour : ), but his answer stunned me....the thing he said he loved most about me was my faith!! Even though he didn't share it! The Father has also been changing me on the inside to be a much better wife and I've seen hubby really respond to that and grow into a more husbandly role. I do pray for him regularly, and I am convinced YHVH has him in His sights!

But this is what forums are all about aren't they, to share, encourage and to love.

Thank you very much ladies!

Lindsey

[This message has been edited by HeHoldsMyHand (edited 01-10-2008).]

Blessings Lindsey,

You are quite welcome.



OR Gentleman

Peace,

JourneyHome

Mr JourneyHome, I beg your pardon!